I'm not a coach but this sounds a bit "coachy"......
Karen Purvis said this, in The Connection, Where Hearts Meet: "We're going to have to be aware that their brain is housed in their body and the brain can only function to connect to us to the extent that their body is supported."
First things First: Empowering the child.
1. Offer your child healthy food every 2 hours.
2. Make sure your child drinks water every 2 hours or so.
3. Physical exercise is important every 2 hours.
4. Make sure any sensory needs are met.
5. Make sure your child is getting enough sleep at night.
These are ideals, and goals..and if they are all met, then a child who comes from a hard place, a trauma child, a difficult child should flourish. I strive fore these 5 every day.
But.
Reality is that by nature of some children being traumatized, difficult, and from hard places, is that all 5 are impossible some days.
My "hard" kids don't want healthy food. They want junk food, or just sugary drinks. They don't want water. They don't want exercise. They want Ipads or going swimming on a work day, or a bike ride in the rain......and the sensory needs change every day, so what works today may not work tomorrow, and sleep? Don't get me started. These kids tend to not sleep well, which makes for tired parents who cannot be creative with items 1-5.
This is impossible tho worthy work. Our kids deserve the ideal, the best possible option....and we, as their parents deserve grace upon grace when 1-5 cannot happen.
Moms who are parenting these hard kids.......learn these tools, pray for your kids, and at the end of the day......just wrap your arms around each and every one and tell them: You are special. You are important. You are beautiful. You are loved. You are wanted. You are necessary. You are good.
Then, sometimes, cry into your pillow and beg God for the courage and resilience to hit it hard again tomorrow and then notice progress.
First things First: Empowering the child.
1. Offer your child healthy food every 2 hours.
2. Make sure your child drinks water every 2 hours or so.
3. Physical exercise is important every 2 hours.
4. Make sure any sensory needs are met.
5. Make sure your child is getting enough sleep at night.
These are ideals, and goals..and if they are all met, then a child who comes from a hard place, a trauma child, a difficult child should flourish. I strive fore these 5 every day.
But.
Reality is that by nature of some children being traumatized, difficult, and from hard places, is that all 5 are impossible some days.
My "hard" kids don't want healthy food. They want junk food, or just sugary drinks. They don't want water. They don't want exercise. They want Ipads or going swimming on a work day, or a bike ride in the rain......and the sensory needs change every day, so what works today may not work tomorrow, and sleep? Don't get me started. These kids tend to not sleep well, which makes for tired parents who cannot be creative with items 1-5.
This is impossible tho worthy work. Our kids deserve the ideal, the best possible option....and we, as their parents deserve grace upon grace when 1-5 cannot happen.
Moms who are parenting these hard kids.......learn these tools, pray for your kids, and at the end of the day......just wrap your arms around each and every one and tell them: You are special. You are important. You are beautiful. You are loved. You are wanted. You are necessary. You are good.
Then, sometimes, cry into your pillow and beg God for the courage and resilience to hit it hard again tomorrow and then notice progress.
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