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Dads...

 Tomorrow is Father's Day.  I have been thinking about the fathers in my life...my own dad, my step-dad, my dad-in-law....all men who I love and who I consider to be special...recently I have come to understand that aging is fragile and needs to be held with great regard.  I am now beginning to experience being the "sandwich generation" where we care for our parents and our children....which makes Father's Day even more significant.  I look to these three men and I am aware of how they have all molded and shaped me....their influence is significant.  I respond and live my life in ways that specifically relate to the relationship I have with each of them.  So Buzz, Ken, Rick....thank you for being my reason to know what Father's Day means.      I am also raising boys....who may become fathers one day....so I consider them and their strengths and weakness and what influence I can have on them now....before they are, in fact, fathers.  The weight of it is heavy becau

Here are some things that foster moms do....

 1.  We answer to "mom" whether we are in the shower, on the phone, driving the car, sitting in church.....wherever we are. 2.  We leave work early and often to do phones calls and therapy appointments and family visits.  We miss a lot of work. 3.  We wonder every time there is a complaint of an ear ache or a bruise on the playground if we need to document, call, go to the ER. 4.  We sometimes champion for the bio parents and reunification and other times defend a kiddo who needs a voice and advocacy...and we wrestle with the loyalty and the crappy hand these kids get dealt.   5.  We ache and ask and hope and and wonder and dream about the perfect happily ever after for our foster kiddo. 6.  We gratefully accept gift cards and scholarships and all the helps to parent another parent's child.   7.  We are in awe of our play therapist and the knowledge and truth and advice they possess.  8.  We wonder why we thought it was ever a good idea to become foster mom. 9.  We thank